Important Things You Need to Know About BDSM

In the past, only a handful of people knew what BDSM was all about. The same cannot be said right now. The book and movie- the fifty shade of grey have brought BDSM into the spotlight. Presently, a lot of people are curious as to what BDSM is all about.

The focus of this article is going to be on the inns and the out of BDSM. So if it is something you are interested in, you are going to find this article useful.

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Of course, there is a lot of information on BDSM on Wikipedia, but they are mostly boring and dry. So, you are looking for a fun an exciting article on BDSM, you this article is for you.

What does BDSM stand for?

  • B-bondage
  • D-discipline
  • S-submission/ dominance
  • M- Masochism

It is a door to a lot of roles and activities that may or may not include sex.

Keep in mind that not all BDSM activities are linked to sex. For some, BDSM is about spirituality. You can learn more about the spiritual aspect of BDSM in the book- A lover’s pinch: A cultural history of Sadomasochism.

Next, we are going to be looking at the history of BDSM.

The history of BDSM

BDSM is a practice that has been around for hundreds of years. It wasn’t given much attention until after the Second World War. Back then, only gay men and a handful of women engaged in the practice. As time when by, more people got to learn about it. Presently, thousands of men and women (if not more) are practicing it.

With the help of science and technology the BDSM community was able to grow from a few hundred to thousands if not more. With a click of a button, you can not connect with people who are interested in the practice in your locality.

A few years back, many people considered BDSM as unhealthy and have categorized it as a serious mental problem. New studies conducted by mental health professionals have debunked these claims. So, we can accurately say that the practice is healthy if it is done the right way.

To get a clearer understanding of what BDSM is about, we are going to be looking at some activities that are associated with it.

  • Orgasm control
  • Bondage (breast bondage, cuffs, rope knots, bondage tapes, and ties)
  • Service (Here the submissive is made to perform actions for the dominant)
  • Role-playing (student, daughter, teacher, daddy and so on)
  • Impact play (hitting, spanking, crops, and paddling)

See, you don’t need to engage in hardcore BDSM activities to have a great time with your partner. Some of the less intense activities will not only turn you on but make you have an orgasm. Keep in mind that there are no limitations as to the activities you can engage in. Feel free to try new things and explore.

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Many people have the notion that BDSM is abuse. But is that true?

Is BDSM linked to abuse?

Those who know utterly nothing about BDSM may consider it as abuse and unhealthy. But if you look at it logically, you will see that it is not abuse. Yes, some BDSM activities can serious pain and sometimes hurt someone, but they are desired by the parties involved. That is, both parties benefit from the practice.

A submissive might look defenseless and powerless, but that isn’t the case because he or she has a safe word or a sign to halt the play at any time.

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Even if you know that BDSM is not abuse, you might not be inclined to try out it. But have you ever considered why so many people are drawn to the practice?

Justin Lenhmiller a renowned sex researcher stated in his book *tell me what you want * that BDSM might be a form of escapism. The result of the survey he took shows that many people relish the chance of giving up control of their self and become submissive. Of course, this stereotype is not common, but one thing you must know is that people do fantasize about BDSM, viewing it window to escape from their self.

Another reason why people may want to try out BDSM is that they want to explore new things and experiment more intense sexual acts. Some people have the belief that BDSM can increase their connection with their partner, which is a good thing for those in a romantic relationship.

BDSM may equip you with the physical and psychological know-how that will make you feel more confident and competent as a lover.

Always remember that the activities during a BDSM play are nothing like an abusive encounter. Getting wiped when you aroused is nothing like getting hit during a fight. Context is the key here.

See, you don’t need to be too hard on yourself because you are interested in BDSM. You are not alone. There are others like you who want to be dominated. It might surprise you to know that functioning members of the society engage in BDSM acts.

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If BDSM is a practice you are interested in, you likely may have thought about how to induce it into your relationship.

How to introduce BDSM into your relationship

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Telling your partner about BDSM and how it works may scare the living daylight out of you especially if you are new to it. But if you tell your partner about it the right way, he/ she might become interested in trying it out.

How to tell your partner about BDSM

Don’t bombard your partner with intricate details about the process. Just tell him or her about what you are interested in. for example, you say that spanking or handcuffs interests you.

It will be wise on your part to bring up the topic before you are in the bedroom. Doing this will give you a window to discuss your expectation. Never should you pressure or force your partner to engage in any activity she is not comfortable with.

If you want your partner to be more receptive, bring up the idea when he or she is aroused. Remember to take things gradually. Instead of jumping to using a whip, start with mild spanking.

Discuss with your partner how both you can remain safe during the practice. You also need to stress that you will use a safe during the play to prevent things from getting out of control.

Final note

BDSM is a subject that will take you time to completely understand. So, keep doing deep and extensive research to get a deeper meaning of what it is all about.